Developing A Healthy Relationship With Porn

Statistics show that many people watch a lot of porn. In fact, you may be shocked to learn just how much porn is seen by people on a regular basis. That being said, the jury is still out on whether porn is good or bad for us. However, you don’t need to be a scientist in order to determine that, sometimes, porn can indeed be very bad for the person seeing it.

First of all, you must be careful about how much porn you’re seeing. If this is for multiple hours per day, then you definitely have a problem. The least of your problems if you watch so much porn is that you’re wasting time that you could use to be productive.

Watching too much porn can be a signal that you have some sexual problems in the interpersonal relationships. What’s your relationship like with the opposite sex? Do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend? If not, do you wish to have one, but fail to get on and overcompensate with watching way too much porn?

You see, porn can be a form of escape from the real problems in life. Since our minds work in big part by the aid of the mirroring neurons – the fact that you watch other people have sex means that you will feel, to some extent, like you’re having sex yourself. And not only that – but that you have developed an intimate relationship with another human being – when in fact you haven’t.

So, the smartest thing to do is to be really careful about your porn habits. We’re not saying, of course, that watching porn is the end of the world. Far from it. There are many people that operate pretty well on a steady diet of porn – but they don’t overdo it.

It’s important to also realize that not everything you see in porn is real. There are many sexual positions that are only done because they look good on the screen – not because they are pleasant or even comfortable to go through. So, you may develop some false belief about the nature of sex. Most porn clips and movies are oriented towards the man’s sexual pleasure – given the fact that most porn directors are men. So, you can see women’s point of view woefully underrepresented in porn.

In all cases, porn is not something that you should let to take over your life. The bad part is that it can be pretty insidious. It’s also highly addictive. Before you know it, you could be steadily upping your porn intake up until the moment it’s no longer healthy for you. If you suspect that you’re addicted to porn, then it may be in your best interest to consult a psychiatrist for advice. You should also consider going cold turkey on porn, at least for a while. With time, your body will acclimate to having regular sex without watching porn all the time. And you will have the benefit of not being addicted to porn.